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  bad manic episode-went to hospital

  by love2Bworldly in

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  hi-- for those of you who struggle with bipolar & depression, just wanted to share my experiences.

  i had a major manic episode last month and spent a week in a phsyciatric hospital, what an experience that was!

  not fun.

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  Aunt Fancy

  That sounds sounds like a really good program for you, I am glad that you received the help you needed. I know from reading about bi-polar it is so important to have a support system to help you stay on track Because it is so easy to stop taking your meds when you are feeling well. My understanding is if you can stay on the meds and take care of yourself you can live a very normal life. Knowing what your triggers are will be very helpful.

  I hope you can learn how to keep your stress levels down and I wish you much success in staying on course. I hope your new therapist will work out for you. If you find you aren't clicking with them don't hesitate to find another one. They can be such a great tool in your life.
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  Important video for JW youth and Parents

  by snare&racket in

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  a very important video to watch and consider, please pass it on to jws, especially parents.. .

  please watch.

  http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5iq7dxolx9a.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Very good video by Marc and Cora.
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  10 Years out of the JW Organization- What I've Learned ( For what it's Worth)

  by flipper in

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  10 years ago i stopped attending jehovah's witness meetings for good.

  walked out of the kingdom hall cold turkey never to return based on injustices i observed among others and myself at the hands of elders giving out not god's counsel but personal opinions as counsel .

  some of them weren't even giving out wt society counsel- just personal opinions.

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  I enjoyed your post Flipper. I can relate to what you said and I too feel more enriched and at peace with myself. We too went cold turkey 17 months ago and although it was very difficult at first it has been very good now. I am not a born in but lost 30 years of my life to it and I was able to draw on my former life to get into the swing of normal life where my husband was a born in of 58 years and it has been more difficult for him. I think born ins have a harder time adjusting because that is all you know.

  I am copying this for him to read because he is going through a harder time because his Mom has been very cold to him. I have my familys support but he lost his dad and brother so he only has his mom and two nieces.
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  Christmas presents

  by Hortensia in

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  i like a lot about christmas, lights, music, smells, food.

  i like the idea of lots of presents, too, but i totally don't like the idea enforced by advertising that all of us must spend loads of money buying gifts for everyone we know.

  and i think that gifts for adults should be consumable, a bottle of wine, candy, that sort of thing, a token of friendship, a little treat, but nothing grand.. so, i've made about four dozen jars of jam from wild grapes i picked in the fall, and i'm going to make lots of cranberry bread and pumpkin bread.

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  Most of mine are bought, wrapped and sent. We are going out of town to be with the kids so I will have to do a little more once we get there. I will also give them money in a card so we can all go shopping the day after. My sisters and I exchange and I give to my nieces and nephew which my youngest sister would like to stop because it adds up. We still give to my parents and I have a cousin I give to. I also give an extra days wages to my cleaning lady, my hairdresser and nail tech.

  I gave the kids a lot last year and this year because I lost out on so many years but I know in a year or two we will cut back.
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  Be honest. Am I an abusive Father??

  by DATA-DOG in

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  i was angry with my kid for questioning me.

  i work, i pay the bills, i provide food, clothing and shelter for them.

  instead of respect, i get attitude.

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  It is obvious that after you said that to your son you must have felt bad about it or you wouldn't have ask for our opinions. I would apologize to him, a child needs to know you are sorry too when you make an error in judgement.

  I have apologized to my son many times and even when we came out of the religion when he was 37 I told him I was sorry for teaching him the religion and he forgave me. Our relationship is so much better because I let him know I was wrong. So, go to your son and let him know you love him and you didn't handle his questions correctly but you are imperfect and you will try harder the next time. Also build him up because you tore him down and don't beat yourself up too much because we all make mistakes but it is how we handle it afterwards that is important.
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  bad manic episode-went to hospital

  by love2Bworldly in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  hi-- for those of you who struggle with bipolar & depression, just wanted to share my experiences.

  i had a major manic episode last month and spent a week in a phsyciatric hospital, what an experience that was!

  not fun.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I am so glad to hear you are doing better. Mental illnesses are so difficult to deal with and after doing much research on bi-polar it is suggested that you get involved in a support group because most people that have it will go off their meds when they feel better and then it starts the cycle of spiraling out of control. I have seen so many friends go through this cycle.

  I too have dealt with severe depression but for me getting out of the cult and seeing a therapist has changed my life for the better. It is amazing what our mind does to us when we are in a toxic situation. My body was turning against me and my quality of life had gotten so low. I feel like a different person and I am off all prescription meds for depression.

  Hang in there, it sounds like you are on the right path and keep taking your meds also I can't remember what you said about this because I read this post last night but, if you aren't seeing a therapist I would highly recommend it Because they can change your life if you find a very good one.
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  this site sucks! its just a buncha athiest on soap boxes.

  by crossquestions6995 in

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  this site is not a healthy forum for discussion or healing.

  its an arena for jaded athiests to bash anything christian or god related.

  yes, i know the jw's lied to us about god and the truth.

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  I don't usually comment on these posts but I will read them and listen to both sides. I have gained a lot of knowledge by reading the points each side has and it has opened my mind to a whole different world. I don't agree with everyone and if someone gets out of control I ignore it so maybe if you would try that and not take it personally you might get some valuable information on the subject. Anytime you talk religion or politics it is bound to get heated because most of us have a certain belief but if you keep an open mind you might learn something new you never thought of.
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  Elders receive a report that I am openly displaying false religious symbol

  by confusedandalone in

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  when you look at the image above what do you see?

  a sneaker or an outward display that i am now following after another religious group?.

  well yesterday i had a 10 minute conversation with an elder who finally got the balls to call me.

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  Just when you think you have heard it all they come up with this!! It really shows how petty the sisters are and the elder for calling you. You handled it well but I think I would have said a little more when I hung up on him. My husband cracked up laughing at how crazy this was. How many people would even think twice or even know what the Rastifarian colors are, so now they are going to go around the KH and tell people they can't wear certain color combinations. I am so glad I am out and away from all of that BS.
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  Been away a long while...

  by Aussie Oz in

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  it has been 5 months since my last post here.

  it has been very nice to have forgotten jehovahs witnesses.

  my life got so busy running my biz that i just had no time to concentrate on anything else for a while.

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  It is nice to have you back. I always think of you when someone is trying to get their children out, I would love to hear an update. It is always encouraging to hear the stories of the ones who are successful in getting their families out and no one should lose hope because even people you think would never leave are leaving.
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  Since leaving the truth, do you celebrate holidays, and does your participation in such bring you happiness?

  by Stand for Pure Worship in

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  i ask this respectfully, and do so after watching a favorite show of mine's season opener which had a new years storyline.

  hollywood tends to make movies and television show episodes centered around holiday themes appear warm and blissful.

  while i'm thankful to have never participated in such holidays, i can't deny my curiosity about ex-jws that do celebrate.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I was not a born in so I celebrated the holidays for 28 years and met my born in husband and I stopped celebrating them for 30 years! Holidays were always very special times of the year not what the JW's would like you to think. It was actually the hardest thing for me to give up and really robbed me of so much joy. We have been out since 7/2012 so we had a wonderful Christmas last year with my son, daughter in law and gradkids. This year is going to be even better because we aren't nervous about it. We have done birthdays, Halloweer, Thanksgiving and a few others.

  I love it!! It brings so much joy and happiness to those you love. The WTBTS ruins all the fun in life. They have taken every possible way of having a good time and made it evil well, they are the ones who are evil! i am decorating the inside of the house this year and next year the outside will be added!! I can't wait.